So I was getting a haircut at a salon, what’s the big deal?
The big deal is that I’ve never been to a hair salon in my life.
AND getting kind of an unusual hairstyle!
Part of this has to do with wanting to do something different as I’m turning 30. But then there’s another story.
I’ve seen people with this asymmetrical kind of haircut before and I’ve never been too impressed with them. But lately I’ve been wrestling with things that I just could not find answers for no matter how hard I think. I was in very bad shape. Self-doubt was seeping into everything. I just wanted to stay home for the rest of my life never having to deal with society ever again. So I brought the questions to my mentor and she said something along the line of,
What about just holding the complexity of all of that, just sitting with questions that we can’t answer, just being with what it is?
I thought that something needed to shift and a haircut would do it. And I thought somehow I needed to embody this stance of “holding ambiguity” in order to practice it, and this kind of hairstyle came to mind.
I usually cut my own hair, or I ask my mom to cut it for me. But I couldn’t cut this hairstyle on my own, and wasn’t sure if my mom would be willing to do it, so I decided to go to a hair salon that Mike visits regularly and likes.
The short side is actually way shorter than I had asked for. Maybe I wasn’t being clear. Lesson to learn for next time. I’ll just have to be with what it is for now.
It’s starting to grow on me though ;)
Have a happy Thursday, everyone!Â
I really enjoy your honesty in your posts in addition to projects you create. I have to say I think you are rockin’ the hair cut. It suits you well :)
Wow, you are very brave to be going to a hair salon for the first time, AND asking for such a drastic cut! Love it on you! And yes, you do have to be very, very specific, ha!
“Holding with what is”; I like that :-).
LOVE the new ‘do!
But I totally understand — hair is a very personal thing. And changes, especially dramatic ones, can take some getting used to. But my stylist and I have a motto “eh, it’ll grow back” ;) LOL
Love your hair cut. Cutting your hair is a wonderful way to feel in control of something when so much around you is beyond your control. Plus it looks good!
thank you! yes, i remember that i actually said to the hairstylist, “oh, whatever looks good to you,” so i wasn’t being specific at all. oh well.
thanks amy! :D that’s what i tell myself all the time too, including the time when i cut my bangs too short, it grows back :D
thanks anne! totally agree with you about being in control.
thank you so much for reading my stories and taking the time to respond — means a lot to me :)
Hi Trish,
I love your new hair cut, it really suits the shape of your face and also suits your new age. It is brave trying something new and stepping outside our comfort zone,it helps us to grow.
Love seeing your projects, how is the sweater coming on?
Enjoy your new look, Sheila.
thank you, sheila! it’s about time i post an update about the sky sweater… maybe in the coming week! :D